Up to 20% of all new HIV infections in South Africa in 2010 were related to sex work, according to a modelling 2011 study by the joint United Nations Programme on HIV and Aids (UNAids).
The infection rate among women sex workers is undeniably high, but these new infections weren’t just among sex workers. Clients represented about 12% of these new infections, and their partners – people who may never have bought sex in their lives – counted for almost 3% of these cases.
These statistics show that the criminalisation of sex work – the consensual buying and selling of sex between adults – puts everyone at risk. It drives sex work underground – putting sex workers and clients at risk of physical violence and HIV infection, and gives them little recourse to justice under the law or access to healthcare services, for fear of being exposed.
Law reform could change this. A 2014 study published in The Lancet medical journal found that decriminalising sex work could avert between a third and almost half of all new HIV infections globally in the next 10 years among sex workers and their clients.
Meanwhile, clients and workers can team up to make sex work safer – and it starts with learning the business of sex. The social justice organisation Sonke Gender Justice has published a guide with what you need to know. Below is an edited extract:
1. Master the lingoWords matter. In the sex work industry, it is important to use terminology that is respectful. For instance, the term "sex work" is preferred to the term "prostitution", which has historically derogatory and moralistic connotations.
The term “sex worker” acknowledges that sex work is work that should come with all the protections of labour law that other workers enjoy.
Next, understanding the services you’re buying is crucial to avoid miscommunication. Often, you’ll be charged according to time and not for a specific service when buying sex. So a “quickie” refers to about 10 to 20 minutes. Ask for a “short time” and you’ll be charged for about 30 minutes of a sex worker’s time. Pay for an “all night” and you can enjoy services until the next morning.
But when clients and sex workers agree to a “full house”, the emphasis is generally on the type of service rather than on the time spent. As part of a “full house”, all sexual services are offered, including penetrative sex.
2. Agree to agreeLearning the lingo is the first step to ensuring you and a sex work professional are in agreement when negotiating, but it doesn’t stop there. Before the fun part starts, you want to make sure you and a sex worker have mutually agreed on:
3. RespectSex workers are pretty clear about what they expect from clients, so:
4. Dress for the occasionWe can’t stress this enough: sex workers want to ensure their own sexual safety as well as that of their clients. This means that clients must always expect to use a condom, for both full penetrative sex and oral sex.
Never offer sex workers more money for sex without a condom. Asking for sex without a condom not only disrespects him/her/them, but also puts you and them at risk of contracting HIV or other sexually transmitted infections.
5. Wash, rinse & repeat – preferably somewhat soberTo make the experience more enjoyable for both the client and sex worker, please be clean and showered before your session.
Also, being too drunk or high ruins the party for everyone. Drugs and alcohol can lead to unsafe sex, reduce men’s capacity to get and keep an erection, and can also affect a person’s judgment and cause him/her to become aggressive.
6. Act out? Then get outSex workers always have a right to say no. If you push a worker’s limits or do not abide by the terms of engagement previously agreed upon, a worker may terminate the session at any point. Never encourage or force a sex worker to do something that she/he/they are uncomfortable with – this could amount to a charge of assault or even rape.
7. This is a workplaceSex work is work. Like any other form of labour, it is the procurement of a service for payment. Do not try to ‘save’ or ‘rescue’ the sex worker. Also, don’t assume that sex workers will see you in their own free time.
Zia Wasserman is a research consultant with gender activist organisation Sonke Gender Justice. Ruvi Tenga is a dedicated sex work activist. This is an edited excerpt from Wasserman and Tenga’s “The Secret Guide to the Business of Sex”, a user-friendly handbook for sex worker clients, developed in partnership with sex workers and clients.
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